The 2nd key to being happy

Once you have chosen what is (see yesterday’s post The 1^st key to being happy), the second key to being happy, and in control of your life, requires you to choose what’s next.

When people feel stuck, it’s usually because they feel that they’re in this place because they have no choice.

“I hate my job but I can’t afford to leave it. I wouldn’t earn this much anywhere else.”

While the above statement may feel true to the person speaking it, the reality is actually as follows.

“I hate my job but I’m choosing not to leave it because I wouldn’t earn this much anywhere else.”

Another statement I’ve heard before is

“My relationship isn’t going anywhere but I can’t leave because I hate being alone and I don’t want to hurt the other person.”

Once again, the reality is similar but with a slight change.

“My relationship isn’t going anywhere but I choose not to leave because I hate being alone and I don’t want to hurt the other person.”

As soon as you realise that you always have a choice, then you are never actually stuck again.

At some point in time you may decide to choose somthing different and the above statements may change to:

“I hate my job and I’m choosing to leave it even though I probably won’t earn this much anywhere else.”

and,

“My relationship isn’t going anywhere and I’m choosing to leave, even though I hate being alone, and because I’m hurting the other person anyway by not being committed to them.”

So, never forget that you get to choose what comes next, and as you're always choosing anyway, why not go ahead and choose what you really want?